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 5/1/2007 12:03 PM
 
Hello out there. Like Diamond 91, I, too, am a brand new widow. My husband died suddenly 7 weeks ago just 2 months shy of our 50th anniversary. Devastated doesn't even begin to describe it. We just bought our latest dream rig 8 months ago and I am now left with a 35' motorhome with 3 slides, enough storage to live in, and payments. I know everyone suggests not making major decisions the first year, but I know myself and I would never be comfortable driving this rolling palace. It's not the length so much, as the width! I live in So. California and even riding in the co-pilot seat was frightening when we had trucks on both sides and only 3" of space between mirrors. Not to mention the work on our freeways that narrow the lanes down with cement barriers! It's much to much RV for my single needs. I need to get rid of the RV and find a Class C or something that I can be comfortable with. No one is answering my ads, and calls or visits to dealers or places that buy RVs result in offers less than the unpaid balance. I plan to stay in our camping chapter, but I would also like to find new friends who have gone through the experience and come out the other side whole and happy. I thought in the beginning I would see if I could tag along on some short trips with some of my club friends - just to get comfortable with my wings. Is that a good idea, guys? My husband and I traveled all over the country and I'm so grateful we had those times. I may never do that again, but I'm not ready to hang up the keys yet. Glad I found this forum. Pooker

Evie driving Flitter, 26' Itasca Spirit with furry co-pilot, Elsa
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 5/1/2007 12:48 PM
 
Bless your heart...I am SO sorry to hear of the loss of your husband.
I hope you will find someone to buy the motorhome, and YES....they do advise waiting a year to make major decisions.. However, no one knows you better than yourself...and if you KNOW beyond a doubt that big motorhome is not you...that you'd feel more comfy in a smaller C...then I see no reason not to get rid of it and generate toward a smaller RV that is "more you".. Some things we just know...and there is no need to wait!!
I think future traveling with club friends is a great idea to try your wings slowly and with those you know and enjoy!
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 5/1/2007 9:25 PM
 
I too know how devasting it is to lose a husband suddenly. There is no GOOD way, but I often wonder if it would have been better if I had had some warning. But life does go on, and you will now make your own life. It's almost 5 years for me now, and I'm at a place I never thought I'd acheive - Peace of Mind. I agree that is way too much RV for you. You don't need all that space - UNLESS - you decide to park it and live in it. Then it would be nice to have the room. But if you plan to traveln then you need to get from under. I don't know your financial situation, but if you don't need cash out of it you might find soneone to take over the payments. At least you wouldn't have that to worry about. If you need cash out of it, then you'll just have to advertise. Or could you do a trade in with the place you bought it from? Let's hear some more options from you RVers. There must be a solution to this.

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 5/2/2007 8:19 AM
 
Hi Pooker,...welcome! I think Sparkle's idea of trading at a dealer is a good one. Go shopping for your Class C and trade that big monster in. But do remember that the reality of buying a camper is that you go "upside down" on the payments very quickly, no matter what the rig is.
I'm sorry for your loss,... hang onto your memories.
Best wishes,.... Cedar Adirondack Mts. in NY '02 Ford Escape '04 Chalet Arrowhead (C-->)
"One's world expands and contracts in direct proportion to one's courage"....Anais Nin.
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 5/2/2007 11:34 AM
 
I don't know exactly how this forum works, but I'm glad both Sparkle and Cedar518 agree that trading in is my best option. So, today I'm hitting the dealers! Last time I tried that, they offered me less than I owe. Experience tells me if I hunt long and hard enough I'll find the deal that works for me.
Thanks guys. Evie and fur people, Spike & Pia

Evie driving Flitter, 26' Itasca Spirit with furry co-pilot, Elsa
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 5/2/2007 12:12 PM
 
Hi Pooker,
So sorry for your loss. You will find a lot of us widows enjoying the RV lifestyle. I've been widowed for 3 1/2 years, and started RVing for the first time 6 months after my DH died. I have a house in FL, but call myself a most-of-the-timer. I have a very small Roadtrek (Class B van camper) which works for me, but I'd want a Class C if I was full-timing. I agree with the others that trading is your best bet to rid yourself of the 35 footer, but you will undoubtedly not get the "best" end of the deal. Sometimes we just gotta do what we gotta do. As you said, be patient and you will know when the Lord has led you to the right decision for you. God bless, See you down the road, Liz and Roe (dog) '99 Roadtrek 170
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 5/3/2007 11:39 AM
 
My deepest sympathy on your loss. It is so hard to start a whole new life, especially alone.
You will probably be happiest trading in your vehicle. You already know that the trade-in will not be what you owe, but perhaps that will be absorbed into the new payments.
I have a class C, and I don't know if mine is that much narrower that your Class A. I am a little over 7' wide, and feel a little cramped in the situations you mentioned. Are you going to full time or part full time.
Take your time setting up your new life, and then....enjoy it!!!
Carole
2007 Itasca Cambia Pepper- Heinz variety dog

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 5/3/2007 12:36 PM
 
Hi Pooker – welcome to the forum. My deepest sympathies at the loss of your husband. I just read somewhere that the heart breaks but keeps on beating. However, it sounds like you have some wonderful memories to give you comfort both now in this time of sadness and as you continue on your life’s journey.
I would think that a dealer would give you a better deal on your MH if you were trading it in on another RV rather than just selling it to him. However, in time, you may still be able to arrange a private sale that would be more profitable for you.
If your budget allows, this might be the time to slow down and really examine all your options. That way you will be able to check out smaller RVs that will serve you better and talk to people who own them.
Best wishes to you as you begin this new chapter in your life. As you have already found out there are ladies here who truly know what you are going through and all of the ladies are great parachutes!
Blessings, Fancy Scratch a dog and you'll find a permanent job. (Anon.)

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 5/3/2007 3:01 PM
 
Dear New Friends: My computer has been down, so I didn't know I had so many of you! To everyone who encouraged me -- THANKS! Yesterday I traded in the huge rolling palace for a darling 26' Class C. It has everything I wanted and more and best of all, the payments are exactly where I needed them! Now I just need to find out just how brave I am and test those wings. I will not become a full-timer as some of you are, but I'll still go out with our camping chapter and perhaps visit our membership park from time to time. While gas prices remain so high (especially here in California) I won't venture too far away. Again, thanks for all your support!
Evie and fur people, Spike & Pia

Evie driving Flitter, 26' Itasca Spirit with furry co-pilot, Elsa
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 5/3/2007 4:32 PM
 
Hi Pooker,
Welcome to the forum! I'm sorry for your loss, but I'm glad that you've found and joined this new group of friends. And congratulations on your new rig! It sounds like it will be just right for you to try your wings with.
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