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 4/11/2007 2:23 PM
 
Hello everyone, I'm new, recently widowed, in Jan of this year, 53 yrs old and live in Alabama. I have a 37 ft class A. All my friends and family say to sell, you can't do it on your own. Big expense, single, etc, etc. I don't want to give it up. I know used coaches don't bring much and I couldn't afford to buy another one. I let it go, it's over. I hang on, it's expensive, where do I go, what do I do...??? I guess I like what I read here and I think I can do it. Took it in for service, pulled out of the lot, driver door flew open, thought oh....sh..... Coach rocking going through the ditch, traffic coming, door wide open swinging, I just reached out grabbed it, pulled it shut and said thank you Lord. Then decided that wasn't so bad, if I can handle that, the rest of it couldn't be much worse. I can drive it, hook it up, use it. I guess I just don't know where to go to meet people. We bought it in 2000, never received an email or newsletter or joined any clubs. Now they tell me we were dropped from the system and they just didn't know we were there. So now I'm single, will work for 5-10 more years and have an RV. What do you ladies do that are on your own? Just thought I'd say hello and look for reinforcement to keep my rig. I don't want to let go of the enjoyment, the memories and the hope of what's to come. I feel if I ever let it go, I'll never get another one. We always pulled motorcycles behind it, I can't load one by myself, don't have a tow bar for a car, but have a Honda Element I could tow. Don't know what's the question or the answer I'm looking for, just thought I'd say hello and see what happens. Take care and God Bless, Rhonda Have a good one, Rhonda

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 4/11/2007 2:26 PM
 
Follow your heart! Google and find some rallies to attend, or join a good sam chapter or a fmca chapter...the possibilities are endless! (Prove them wrong!)
Welcome to the forum.

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 4/11/2007 3:47 PM
 
Not EVERYONE has said you can't do it..... we all say that you can. The last thing that you want to do is listen to "well-meaning" friends and family who tell you that you can't do something. Heck, 53 is young. When you are 93, you will look back and wonder why you didn't try MORE things. If I had a dollar for everytime someone told me that I shouldn't, couldn't, wouldn't do something; then I would be a multi-millionaire.
I am very sorry that you lost your husband, but you have to live life now. And I don't know how to beat around the bush, which has gotten me into trouble in the past... but here goes... if you had died, I don't think people would be telling your DH that he couldn't do something anymore.
I sent you a private email.. I hope that you respond. There are alot of gals here in Alabama who do this on their own. And look at Sparkle, she is as old as dirt... and she goes off on her own!!!!! Proud mother of 4 wonderful children and beaming grandmother of 1
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 4/11/2007 4:03 PM
 
I'm so sorry you are having to go through the loss, the fear, the lonliness of losing your husband. It does get better...slowly. You will make a life for yourself and it will be a good one. I hope you are reading my posts about my travels. I'm 68, widowed almost 5 years now. I had to buy an RV on my own, so you are one step ahead of the game already. I'm not a joiner, but I'm meeting so many great people, and getting a list of friends to keep in touch with, and meet up again. I'm on my way to a workamper job on the North Rim of the Grand Canyon. I'll be there for 6 months, then on my travels again. You've come to the right place for encouragment and friendship. Don't listen to the naysayers. You know what you want to do.

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 4/11/2007 4:49 PM
 
Dear Rhonda, I was in your shoes last April,the difference was I (we ) had a 32'Airstream Travel Trailer that we towed. I knew I couldn't tow that, so I sold it the day my hubby passed away. Like you I found this forum and I began to believe I could do it, only my way, which is a Class C . Everyone tells you not to make any BIG decisions for at least a year, I think they were right. Now is the time for you to investigate all your options , continue to read this forum, don't buy or sell anything until it's clear what you should do. Start the motorhome up once in a while to keep it in good shape. And in the meantime keep yourself in good shape also. Life as it was will never be the same again..........but a newstart can be what YOU want it to be..............your in my prayers, stay happy and healthy Happiness is a Choice...........choose to be happy
bettyfromvero

Happiness is a Choice...........choose to be happy bettyfromvero
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 4/11/2007 8:15 PM
 
You have proof right here on this Forum that it can be done...So follow your heart and your dreams and go for it..
You plan to work for 5-10 years...so in that time frame make weekends your travel time. Go to parks near you for Friday and Saturday nights... coming home on Sundays to go back to work.
I have a feeling that the ones who are telling you it can't be done have never owned or operated an RV of any kind.. So...not to be rude...but WHAT do they know!!?? Look at the experiences of the gals on here who travel alone... or with family... We can do ANYTHING we set our minds to doing!
You know, Rhonda...av8rix2 has hit the nail on the head...if you, as the survivor of a marriage were male...NO ONE would tell you it can't be done!!!
You have a lot of support right there in Alabama...gals here on this Forum who are doing the very thing your friends and family say can't be done.. They mean well...Rhonda...but they haven't got a CLUE!!!
Go out and camp weekends... If you need company---take your dog.... You will meet people in the camping world. Do some research...are you not near a large city... Do some Internet searches...find a camping group in a nearby large city... You have time to search all this out...
Don't give up on your dream!! Good luck and have fun with your motorhome... Keep on posting... We gals have lots of encouragement for you!!!
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 4/11/2007 10:46 PM
 
Rhonda,
Don't let anyone tell you that. I do it and you can too. Am in TN right now at a GTG but I am from AL too. Also a few others on the list from AL too. If you want to keep your RV, do it girl. You'll learn and plenty of people will help you. This is a great group!!!!
Linda
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 4/11/2007 10:55 PM
 
Hi Rhonda, and welcome to our band of merry sisters..some with wheels under our butts, and some planning on future travels. Great advice has already been given and many of us are without husbands. All I want to add is for you to have some quiet time and reflect on who YOU are. What are your hobbies and interests? How did you spend time alone before? Mostly, what are your dreams? Are there places you've always wanted to see, or things you've always wanted to do? Lots of your happiness seems to be centered around driving that "beast" on adventures.
We here will all tell you you certainly can, (it won't be a "beast" for long), and the cloud will lift to give you sunshine again some day. Good luck sister, we'll be watching for more of your posts and here at our keyboards if we can help. Sunseeker Jill (and Molly of course)

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 4/12/2007 3:56 AM
 
Rhonda, NEVER listen to them when "they" say "you can't do that". You CAN and you KNOW this somewhere in your heart or you wouldn't be here with us.
My husband didn't believe me when I said I wanted to take our truck and trailer, alone, to Utah. I just got back from the two week trip Sunday. Everything went without a wrinkle, except some minor things that can be easily fixed. It helps that the trailer is MINE, bought and paid for with inheritance money he can't touch, and that I do all the service and maintenance on it (I can jerk that sucker to the RV place with the best of them! ;p ).
Whereabouts in Alabama are you? I grew up in Grand Bay and Mobile about a million years ago. My mom is still in Mobile and a sister is in Fairhope. One hubby Three cats Umpteen sheep 26' Skyline Nomad

One hubby Three cats Umpteen sheep 26' Skyline Nomad
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 4/12/2007 6:56 AM
 
Hi Rhonda, First I'm sorry for your loss,... whether through death or divorce losing your husband is a hurting thing.
But please don't listen to people who don't know what they are talking about! Yes, they mean well, but they are talking through fog. Heck,.. i lived in Alabama for 7 months before my husband abandoned me,... I was called "Miss" constantly even at a car dealership. (Made me furious!) Even my then husband or his son would turn the car around so I wouldn't have to do it myself,... (,..they didn't think a woman was a good driver,.. and they said so! ... it was "easier" for them to do it) So I guess they were wrong, eh?
My rig is small, but I can hitch and tow my camper and go all over the northeast with it. I may even come back to the gulf coast area for the winter in '08. (love your cajun boiled peanuts!) And I am watching for the right rig to upgrade to. I have been camping since the 70s and divorce is NOT going to stop me.
So hang on,... and get out there. Lots of good people in the campgrounds, go for a walk, say hello and perhaps a conversation will result. Have one or two extra lawn chairs under your awning,... invite folks for coffee, you will be surprised how much enjoyment you will have.
And,.. I'm so glad you found US! Cedar Adirondack Mts. in NY '02 Ford Escape '04 Chalet Arrowhead (C-->)
"One's world expands and contracts in direct proportion to one's courage"....Anais Nin.
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