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 2/17/2007 2:58 AM
 
Hello everyone.
I am 53 years old and just bought a Raptor 33 foot toy hauler RV (today!) So, I thought this would be a good time to stop lurking and start contributing to these forums. I have never RV’d before and I have never even driven a truck with a trailer. This should probably concern me, but it doesn’t. I have many years of outdoor adventure time that includes mountaineering, scuba diving and skiing, among other foolish pursuits. Whatever it takes to do this RV thing….I’m game!
I am a glass bead artist and intend to use the “toy hauler” garage part of the rig to house a custom glass studio I am building with torches and other tools/equipment necessary to do flamework on the road. My plan is to travel the arts and bead show circuit selling my work and seeing the country, taking odd-jobs as necessary to supplement my income.
My husband is dying from metastatic prostate cancer. No one can predict how long he will live, but he is in the most advanced stage of the disease and is visibly losing ground. We both know our time together is limited. I jumped into my rig a little sooner than I might have (I assumed I would begin the process after his passing) because he wants deeply to make sure I am safely equipped and ready for my life on the road. This, he insists, is therapy for him and gives him the will to continue to fight the cancer and enjoy the time remaining to him. So he is in the process of buying the truck I will use to haul my rig. The RV itself, however, and the studio build-up is totally my deal, though he will help (he is an engineer) to the degree he is able. We plan to spend whatever good time he has left exploring and learning to RV together. Hopefully, we will have this summer, but we are not putting anything off. Once the roads around here clear of snow, we’re off!
I have loved my DH as my soul mate. He is a wonderful man and has been sweet and kind to me. But once he passes, I intend to be independent and free. I know I will be lonely at times, but everyone has that problem and it appears to be unrelated to having a spouse or not.
I have enjoyed hearing your varied insights about RV life. You all have helped give me courage to pursue this dream.
SuZie When God opens a door, walk through it.
SuZie

When God opens a door, walk through it. SuZie
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 2/17/2007 5:35 AM
 
Welcome, Suzie!!! Hey...we're the same age! lol.....Congrats on the purchase of your future home on wheels...sounds like you have a plan and are looking forward to the future....My soul mate and I have been doing this for 3 years and he's always teaching me new things about driving the truck & camper..stating he wants me to know how just in case....It's wonderful that the 2 of you have this time together and the memories will sustain you when you need them.....We're all here to be your support and everyone is a good listener....so don't be shy......this is the place to laugh, to cry, and to share.....
Lori Lots of camping enjoyment on the road...in a little bitty living space. '04 Shamrock 17' hybrid camper '05 Ford F-150

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 2/17/2007 7:03 AM
 
Welcome to the forum Suzie. My heart aches that your husband won't have much time to spend with you. I'm glad though that he is enjoying getting you ready for the road. Tell him that our thoughts and prayers are with him.
You sound like a real adventure seeker. I think you're going to love being on the road pursuing your dreams. Today is a gift, that's why it's called the present. http://www.macandchris.com

Today is a gift, that's why it's called the present. http://www.macandchris.com
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 2/17/2007 8:38 AM
 
Welcome SuZie! I'm glad to see that you are pushing forward with your dream of a camper to house your craft shop. And of course I'm sorry that the enjoyment won't be that long with your DH with you. Best wishes to you both.
I would recommend that you get someone local who is already adept at driving, hitching etc. a 5th to take you out for some on the road experience. Also I understand that in the mid-west/west there are some great RV classes. I suggest this as you state you have no experience driving something like this,... for your safety and those around you. Please!
I hope to meet up with you sometime. Your artistic work sounds interesting and I'd love to see it.
Cedar '02 Ford Escape '04 Chalet Arrowhead (C-->)
"One's world expands and contracts in direct proportion to one's courage"....Anais Nin.
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 2/17/2007 9:35 AM
 
Hi SuZie. Wow – what an emotional roller coaster you must be on right now. Life has dealt you a difficult hand to play but it sounds like you have a plan on how to play it out to the best of your ability. I’m a newbie but have been “lurking” on this forum for some time. These ladies are so kind and supportive. Some of them have walked the road you are on and truly understand what you are going through. I encourage you to let them be there for you.
Your DH sounds like a wonderful man as he helps you prepare for the next season of your life. I hope you have an opportunity to make many happy memories together as you begin this new on-the-road chapter in your lives. Keep us posted as you travel about – these ladies are always trying to hook up with each other to get better acquainted and to get pictures. Sure hope you come to my part of the country – would love to see the pretty things that you make with glass. Blessings to you. In the end, it's not the years in your life that count, it's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln

Never take away anyone's hope; that may be all they have. (Anon)
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 2/17/2007 11:05 AM
 
Hey Suz, thanks for joining us and sharing your story. You certainly have a hard road to travel, but with your wonderful spirit and your soul mate, I am certain that you will come through this scarred but whole. Having a hobby, traveling the country, meeting all your new friends, all of these should help you bear the pain, and move forward.
Please keep everyone posted on your progress with the RV, and know that you are in all of our prayers. Carole
2007 Itasca Cambia Pepper- Heinz variety dog

Carole 2007 Itasca Cambia
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 2/17/2007 11:41 AM
 
Thank you all for your wonderful and kind responses - and so quick!
The folks who sold me the RV are going to spend several hours teaching me the basics of driving the rig, hooking up, etc. Also, I have a good friend who has been a truck driver and and RV'er most of his life who will be working with DH and I to get the basics down. I am a very safety-conscious person (well, I play with fire much of the day!)
Chris, I visited your blog. I haven't sorted through all of it yet, but I love your techical section! We eventually want a solar panel system and your blog will be extremely helpful. Thank you so much for sharing.
SuZie When God opens a door, walk through it.
SuZie

When God opens a door, walk through it. SuZie
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 2/17/2007 2:35 PM
 
Suzie - Congratulations on picking out your RV and making plans with your DH to hit the road. Don't be afraid that all the tech stuff is beyond you. You will catch on quick and with engineer DH it will become second nature in no time. It's a continuing learning process and fun. Your traveling business sounds really unique and pulling a studio is a neat idea. Good luck with that. What is that saying ' " A good life is not made up of the number of days you live but the number of times that take your breath away" Hope you have many such shared days coming up for you and hubby. God bless. Mary Marysdream Its all good!!!!!
2000 Rialta (little Sweetie)

Marysdream Its all good!!!!! 2000 Rialta (little Sweetie)
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 2/17/2007 3:04 PM
 
Welcome Suzie,
I'm glad that you're going to be able to fulfill a dream - and sad that doing so means leaving behind a very large part of your life. It's wonderful that you are able to start this adventure together and that you have such a wonderful caring partner who wants to see you start the path of this adventure.
Kudos to both of you.
And I look forward to seeing you more in the forum! And later on - on the roads. Smiling is contagious - try it!
Bethers

--------------------------- Once your reputation is ruined, you can live life quite freely :) (old German saying) Bethers
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 2/17/2007 5:42 PM
 
Wow!I'm happy and proud of you for taking the plunge.It's great that DH is so supportive also.We have a couple of things in common. I'll be 52 this year,almost the same age. I also do glass work, but mine is the stained glass art. Instead of flames I work with the lead,foil and cutting the glass. I'm working on a special window that we're going to put in the door of our RV. I'm called Sue or Susan. Welcome to the forum! If your ever in my neck of the woods your welcome to stop in.(North Central MN) Susan 91 35" Journey

Susan,USN vet. Husband,Dan:USN retired.
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