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 2/13/2007 11:26 AM
 
If you avoid certain situations because you're worried about the outcome, you never get to learn what would have happened if you had faced those situations. You deprive yourself of the chance to see how you would have coped. When you decide to avoid, you experience a temorary state of relief, but you're also left feeling powerless and deflated, as if you can't control your own behaviour. Eventually you become discouraged and disheartened as a vague sense of feeling paralyzed sets in. This is how avoidance slowly eats away your self confidence over time....Push yourself to feel vulnerable - this allows you to learn that you can handle whatever happens, and that even the most difficult of emotions can't destroy you. We're all capable of feeling intense fear so we can escape life-threatening situations...but usually people avoid things that simply make them feel uncomfortable. From Women who Worry too Much. 1984 Class A Allegro(Miss Piggy) Jean the Scot Bogie the Pit (rescued) Shona the Calico Cat

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 2/13/2007 12:01 PM
 
Well said Sparkle. I firmly agree! And like I tell my GD..."Can't never did nothing".

Paulette
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 2/13/2007 5:47 PM
 
Could be why I decided last night to drive out to a favorite campground and spend a few days boondocking. Needed to run the generator and couldn't do it at either Sweetwater or Lake Jennings. So, stuck heavy stuff in the back of the pickup - wouldn't need it, rolled up the awning, and got things ready to go. Started pouring rain again halfway through the night and I started having second thoughts. But, was glad I'd taken care of the awning.
It was still raining thie morning, but took off anyway, dumping the tanks first. Gettin' to be an old hand at that. Stopped for gas (Scary how much it costs to fill this small rig) and took off to the campground at 4,000 ft. elevation. It has water and outhouses, but that's about it. Rained pretty hard the entire way up here and I got to practice finding a decent site and setting up in the rain while the puppies pranced around in heaven, finding little chunks of horse manure to chew on, until I caught them.
Ran the generator to fix my lunch and it worked really well. Running the furnace as well because it's pretty cold right now. I'm the only one here which is interesting. But, I've seen a ranger drive through several times.
Tomorrow is Valentine's Day, and this is my present to myself. Feeling a bit vulnerable? Yep. But I've also been getting more and more used to driving this rig, setting it up, leveling it in soft, sandy soil, housetraining two active little puppies and keeping them entertained in the rain, figuring out when to roll up the awning, dumping tanks, and so forth. If I was still married, DH would of course be doing all this. And, I sometimes wish there was someone to help out once in a while. But, the fact that I can do this stuff, all pretty new, at age 60, give me this great feeling of satisfaction. "Live well, laugh often, love much."
Chris 2006 Forest River Lexington (23 ft) 2002 Ford Ranger P/U

Chris Blog: http://piecingalife.blogspot.com
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 2/13/2007 6:07 PM
 
You understood exactly what that little essay was saying! Doesn't it feel good when you push yourself! And then that will get so easy that you'll be able to tackle anything you put your mind to. 1984 Class A Allegro(Miss Piggy) Jean the Scot Bogie the Pit (rescued) Shona the Calico Cat

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 2/13/2007 9:45 PM
 
Right on, you-all! I'm pushing myself, too. I learned a long time ago that you learn more and have a better feeling of accomplishment when things are a little challenging. And, of course, the emotional stuff is the hardest! karen live for the moment

karen live for the moment "One of the advantages of being disorderly is that one is constantly making exciting discoveries." - AA Milne
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 2/13/2007 10:18 PM
 
Sparkle really needed to read that.
Chris, good on you for stepping outside of the box and just doing it. You are, as I first thought, quite an impressive lady, just like the others on this forum that are living their dreams daily. :) Live, Love, Laugh - Aloha Donna & Willie 05 32' Seabreeze Class A 07 Jeep Liberty Ltd

Live, Love, Laugh - Aloha 05' National Seabreeze 31' 07' Jeep Liberty toad
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 2/14/2007 4:41 PM
 
This topic string reminded me so much of the books written by Kris Radish that I just had to add an entry. Her books (The Elegant Gathering of White Snows, Dancing Naked on the Edge of Dawn, Annie Freeman's Fabulous Traveling Funeral, and The Sunday List of Dreams) are about women connecting, growing, daring, dreaming, and succeeding in wild, wacky, and wonderous ways. Her writing is a bit different, and can be a challenge to get into. Reading her sentances can be like listening to the thoughts that ramble through your head. But it is worth it.
I just started her latest book, The Sunday List of Dreams. Not quite sure where this one is going to lead, but it starts out with a woman who is just retiring, and setting off to accomplish her "list of dreams" that she has been writing and re-writing for years. # 3 on the list is "Get rid of all the junk!" (How many times has that been in this forum?)
Then she discovers the shocking truth about the company that her oldest daughter runs... and she sets off to New York to re-connect with the daughter she hasn't seen for years. She is afraid of this new adventure, but with the help of the women she meets along the way, she will undoubtedly have adventures and learn more about herself and her own strengths than she would have ever dreamed.
Great author, great books. Has anyone else read any of her books?
--RVThereYet

--RVThereYet
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 2/14/2007 5:45 PM
 
I haven't read her books, yet, but I promise from your glowing words here that I'll be looking for them. Smiling is contagious - try it!
Bethers

--------------------------- Once your reputation is ruined, you can live life quite freely :) (old German saying) Bethers
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 2/14/2007 8:28 PM
 
I read a book years ago, and the only thing I remember about it was the title "Feel the Fear, And Do It Anyway." That sentence has allowed me to do many things in my life that I might not have done, especially the fear that I might fail at something.
Av see you gals on the road!
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 2/18/2007 3:51 PM
 
Reading Chris's posting got me to thinking. Did anyone here ever think for one minute that 'camping' could be so empowering? You don't have to scale a mountain like Everest. You don't have to shoot the rapids of the Colorado River, ect. You simply have to learn how to drive a motorhome and size doesn't really matter. You have to learn how to roll up and unroll an awning. Find out where your breaker box is. And learn to dump your holding tanks. If you think about it, none of those things by themselves are earth shattering. But they are life changing. They are so very life changing!!! It's amazing that when you add up all the little things, just how much they amount to. Ya'll simply amaze me to no end. You go 'girls'!!!!! There is nothing that you can't do. Echo (who is a) future full timer a mom with an empty nest, single, stifled and ready to cut loose with a Pom named Shade!

Echo (who is a) future full timer a mom with her daughter back home again, single, stifled and ready to cut loose with a Pom named Shade!
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