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 11/29/2011 7:08 PM
 

The past month has been a whirlwind of emotions. On October 30th my husband was admitted to home hospice care. Since that time he has been getting weaker by the day. I am not ready for him leave me, but since God is the only one who can decide when we leave this life it is a choice I have no control over.

We were able to have all of our children and 4 of our grandchildren here for Thanksgiving to give him that time with them. It was worth all the work and planning to hear him tell me thank you after everyone had left that night.

I spoke to the nurse today and although she can not tell me when I will lose him she did suggest that we not plan anything large for Christmas as she feels by then he will be to weak to enjoy any festivities if he is still with us. So we will make it a quiet day if we have the chance. For those who are not familiar with me DH has suffered with COPD for may years and at this point is using all his energy just to breath. Our goal right now is to keep him as comfortable as possible for the time he has left.

As the cover went on the camper this past weekend it was with sadness that he will probably not see it again. We did manage to make a trip over Columbus Day weekend to Lancaster PA which is our favorite place to camp although it was really hard for him he wanted so much to go for me. It was then that we realized that he was much worse than we wanted to admit to each other and we no sooner got home and his Dr recommended hospice care. It will always be our special place, one that we enjoyed many times together. Our dream of full time RVing can no longer be, but he has made me promise to go on with the dream even though he can not be there with me. So with Duncan as my copilot I have told him, God willing, I will see everything we wanted to see together.


Deb & Duncan The Long Dog 2004 24" Rockwood TT 2006 Tundra Double Cab
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 11/29/2011 7:39 PM
 

Deb - Thinking and praying for you and your hubby during this time. Be positive and strong.


Linda
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 11/29/2011 8:00 PM
 

It is never easy to go through something like this and the holidays seem to make it worse. Your husband sounds like a wonderful person. Glad you were able to have time with your family. Praying for you both.

Martha

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 11/30/2011 12:46 AM
 

It is such a hard thing to have to do...and during the holidays ...seems even harder...may our Father in Heaven be with you during this time...enjoy the time that you have left as much as possible ...

sheila

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 11/30/2011 11:58 AM
 

My thoughts and prayers are with you both. It was just a year ago that my husband was placed on hospice and passed on December 20. I pray that God will grant you the peace that he gave us. Come back and visit with us often - we care.

Sue


Just when the caterpillar thought life was over, she became a butterfly.
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 11/30/2011 12:58 PM
 
I am happy to hear y'all were able to make one more rv trip together. You will cherish that memory. Prayers for you and your family at this time in your life.

Carolyn / 34' 7" Keystone Cougar 5th Wheel (3 slides) / F-250 Diesel Super Duty Crew Cab Truck / Member of: RVing Women/Texas Ramblin' Roses, Escapees and Good Sam 2009 Dec - CPJ Truck & Camper Photobucket States I have RV'd overnight
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 11/30/2011 10:48 PM
 

My thoughts and prayers are with you.


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 12/18/2011 7:31 PM
 

Haven't been here in months but needed a recipe and thought I would look in at the forum and yours was the first note I saw. I lost my partner in March and I was not ready at all no matter what but there are many of this forum and in the RV community who have been through what you are going through and open our hearts to you. They helped me so much with cards, phone calls, kind words and simply caring. I feel so badly you are having to go through such a hard time and sadly you really go through it alone. No one can take the pain but do let us help by listening, sharing, reaching out. You are not alone.


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 12/18/2011 11:15 PM
 

vicki

it was so goo to gee you hope that you will come back more often

sheila

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 12/19/2011 9:13 AM
 

Just wanted to add my support along with the others. I, too, am one of those who lost their life partner. I'm happy to see that you will continue RVing alone when the time comes. As you say, life is not so good right now, and when you lose someone you love your whole life changes. It's hard to adapt and you yearn for the old life. After losing so much, you shouldn't also lose a lifestyle you love. We are here to offer support, advice, and sympathy. Whatever you need.

Hang on. Watching someone we love struggle to breathe is very hard.

Pooker


Evie driving Flitter, 26' Itasca Spirit with furry co-pilot, Elsa
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